Three Life Lessons I Won’t Forget

I’ve learnt a lot in life. Yanno, have a wee after sex, put mascara on your bottom lashes first and throw spaghetti at the wall to see if it’s cooked. But along with the everyday things, I’ve also learnt a fair few life lessons which have a bit more meaning to them than seeing whether my pasta has stuck to the wall or not. Unfortunately I’ve had to learn some of these lessons the hard way but I’ve learnt them nonetheless and that’s all that matters.

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You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped

This life lesson has the most meaning to me and I’m not gonna lie, it’s been pretty hard to accept at times. Over the last few years I’ve had my nearest and dearest go through some shit, to put it quite frankly, where all I’ve wanted to do is help them and be there for them. But sometimes, you can’t. No matter how much you love or care for them, if someone doesn’t want to help themselves then you’ll never be able to either. I wish I had accepted this a long time ago as it would’ve saved me a whole lotta grief, pain, time and effort.

But don’t forget, just because someone doesn’t want your help, it doesn’t mean you have to walk away. Instead, I’ve learnt to let them do their own thing even though that can be pretty difficult to watch someone self destruct in front of your own eyes, and just let them know that you’re there for them when they’re ready to accept help.

Have realistic expectations

I know this sounds like a really horrible thing to say but I’ve really had to lower my expectations over the last few years. I’ve had people let me down and faced countless disappointments in life in general so the only way to deal with it is to expect less. If I arrange to go for a drink with one of my pals, I’m now way more aware that they could bail on me at the last minute so I don’t get my hopes up too much. It’s quite sad really but I’ve been bitten in the arse more times than I care to mention so I have to protect myself! It’s not just to do with friends cancelling plans though, I’ll make sure I have reasonable expectations when it comes to anything whether that’s how a hotel room will look in real life or how the amazing steak I ordered will actually taste. By having more realistic expectations, I think I feel much less disappointment in life!

Live for yourself and the now

My life is mine, right? So if I wanna eat a pizza then fuck it, I’m gonna eat it. I’m a huge believer that you should live your life for yourself and nobody else. I’ve not turned into some inconsiderate arsehole (name that reference), but I’m definitely more in tune with what I want out of life. I don’t really give a toss what people judge me for as long as I’m a happy bunny and enjoying what I’m doing whether that’s taking photos in the middle of the street or saving to buy a house. I’m also starting to live more in the moment which is extremely difficult for such an anxious person but I’m getting there slowly but surely. Rather than trying to plan every teeny weeny detail of my life, I’m just taking each day as it comes!

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I suppose this post got a little deep didn’t it!

In all seriousness though, some of these life lessons have been hard to learn and at times I’ve wanted to ignore them but as Freddie on The Circle says #FactsAreFacts and I’ve had to accept them.

Are there any life lessons which you’ve learnt recently?

16 Comments

  1. Candice
    10/10/2018 / 11:42

    Living for yourself is definitely a great lesson I would remember.

    Candice | Natalya Amour

    • Katy
      Author
      12/10/2018 / 11:23

      I think so many of us forget to do it! x

  2. 10/10/2018 / 14:08

    You should definitely not give up on people. Sometimes it might seem like they don’t want your help, but they do, they definitely do! I speak from the hearth and personal experience… It’s so hard to open in front of other, even if they are close to you… just be there for them and never let them go!

    Mariya | http://www.brunetteondemand.com

    • Katy
      Author
      12/10/2018 / 11:25

      I totally agree, walking away is the worst thing you can do! x

    • Katy
      Author
      12/10/2018 / 11:25

      Thanks for reading x

  3. 11/10/2018 / 15:08

    Such simple but meaningful points. I can completely relate to lowering expectations – I tend to get over excited for small things or paint an unrealistic picture in my head then get let down Such a good point and also leaves room for being pleasantly surprised when things turn out better than expected! x
    http://www.thelifestyedit.com | Alexandra

    • Katy
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      12/10/2018 / 11:26

      That’s exactly what I do! I love feeling more surprised than disappointed now! x

  4. 12/10/2018 / 13:13

    yeah. sometimes you’ve got to let people go the way they want and be patiently there to tell them, “told ya!” :/

    • Katy
      Author
      15/10/2018 / 09:02

      It’s frustrating but unfortunately it’s just what you’ve gotta do! I find it so hard not to say ‘I told you so’ sometimes! x

    • Katy
      Author
      15/10/2018 / 09:03

      I think it’s more that they’re not ready to accept help in my case anyway, because they definitely needed it! x

    • Katy
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      15/10/2018 / 09:03

      I hope it helps! x

  5. 17/10/2018 / 10:30

    Having realistic expectations is so important, though I always hope that things will turn out for the positive. I feel like it makes it more enjoyable if I know I want it to be good.

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    • Katy
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      17/10/2018 / 13:37

      Yeah I always cross my fingers too haha x

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